internet cheating
The following is some info that I found concearning cheating on the internet. I believe that anybody who connects with a person via internet without their spouse knowing is infact a cheater…..Check out this info.
There is a site on the internet where men and women openly discuss their “internet affairs.” It is a kind of online therapy for cheaters. A friend who does a lot of web-surfing directed me to it. She thought I might be interested in writing an article on people who cheat on their spouses via the web. I checked it out and, after reading some of the postings, decided she was right. There’s a lot of information there. The internet has spawned a whole new definition of “extra-marital relationships.”
The internet is a wonderful thing; it connects you with a world of people you might not ever have met in your entire lifetime. For businesses, for services, for advertising, the net created a revolution for getting noticed.
There are also special interest sites where like-minded people can get together, virtual social clubs, if you will. But like any place where people meet people, there are potential problems. Internet relationships have become a by-product of the modern world of web-surfing; all well and good for singles, a new form of cheating for those who are married.
“I don’t really see it as cheating,” posted one man on the site, “it’s not physical. I’ll probably never meet the woman, but the erotic atmosphere adds a spice to my life.”
“It’s just harmless, sexy flirting brought to another level. No one is getting hurt,” is another posting.
Does internet cheating hurt if there’s no “real” relationship? Can it even be called cheating on your spouse if no physical contact is involved? The answer to both questions is yes.
While it may not be physical, it is still considered cheating. It is the emotional variety of having an affair. There can be no question about whether or not anyone is hurt. The knowledge that your husband or wife is writing erotic messages to another person diminishes the relationship you have together.
Marriage therapists are seeing more couples who have problems with virtual cheating than ever before.
Melissa Martirano, a couples therapist in the New York area, says that the couples she has seen where one spouse has used the internet as a means of cheating has tripled in the past two years.
“It hurts to know that your husband or wife has an intimate relationship with another person, whether it is in person or on the internet. Emotional cheating destroys trust too.”
Any person who thinks that virtual intimacy is innocent needs to re-evaluate his or her idea of marriage and decide what love and commitment really means to them. A relationship based on trust should extend to all areas, even the internet.
RESPECT THE DREAM
Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968) was an American clergyman, activist and prominent leader in the African-American civil rights movement. His main legacy was to secure progress on civil rights in the United States, and he has become a human rights icon: King is recognized as a martyr by two Christian churches.[1] A Baptist minister,[2] King became a civil rights activist early in his career. He led the 1955 Montgomery Bus Boycott and helped found the Southern Christian Leadership Conference in 1957, serving as its first president. King’s efforts led to the 1963 March on Washington, where King delivered his “I Have a Dream” speech. There, he raised public consciousness of the civil rights movement and established himself as one of the greatest orators in U.S. history.
In 1964, King became the youngest person to receive the Nobel Peace Prize for his work to end racial segregation and racial discrimination through civil disobedience and other non-violent means. By the time of his death in 1968, he had refocused his efforts on ending poverty and opposing the Vietnam War, both from a religious perspective. King was assassinated on April 4, 1968, in Memphis, Tennessee. He was posthumously awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1977 and Congressional Gold Medal in 2004; Martin Luther King, Jr. Day was established as a U.S. national holiday in 1986.
SEX ADDICTS? Yeah right……..
This week we talk about sex addicts..I mean really, this has got to be the craziest excuse for cheating I ever heard. Anyway we talk about it on our weekly radio show check it out. I also looked up some facts about 
topic.
What is it?
Sexual addiction is not sexual desire. Sexual addiction is defined not by the type of sexual act performed or even by the frequency of sexual activity. Instead, it is defined by an addict’s compulsive use of sex to address non-sexual emotional needs. It is frequently indicated by the willingness of an addict to suffer enormous consequences for engaging in sex. Even great sex can’t be that good. And that’s just the point, sexual addiction has very little to do with sex, and a lot to do with why we have sex to begin with.
The Symptoms
It is thought that sex is used by the addict as an escape, a means of avoiding stress, emotional strain, boredom, anxiety, and the pursuant shame and isolation that results from their compulsive behavior. Sex may be used to feel powerful or desirable. Sexual addiction is often accompanied by other addictions, such as an addiction to work or chemicals. The addict displays increasingly secretive behavior, deception, and withdrawal from those closest to him.
Consequences
The consequences of sexual addiction frequently have an enormous social impact. Sexual addiction often leads to the sexual abuse of an addict’s coworkers, friends, and/or sexual partners. It can leave an addict isolated, depressed, and sometimes suicidal. Sexual addicts engage in sexual behavior that they know is risky, putting themselves and their partners at risk of contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Like other addicts, sexual addicts will sacrifice relationships, their own health, and jobs to pursue their compulsion.
Living with a Sex Addict
Sex addiction can have serious consequences for the families, partners, and coworkers of an addict. Sexual addiction is frequently indicated by an addict’s willingness to go to great ends for sex. The addict’s compulsion forces others into being either potential targets or potential fall off. Unfortunately, the consequences of sexual addiction, like many addictions, usually fall equally on the people around the addict. In many cases it does not really matter why someone is targeting a woman sexually, it only matters that it is happening at all. For women being sexually harassed at work, their concern is not to diagnose sexual addiction but rather to combat sexual harassment. However, the situation can be quite different for the partners and families of sex addicts. In those cases, the underlying reasons for the addict’s behavior are important to those that surround him.
If a woman’s partner is a sex addict, first and foremost she should make sure that any sex she is having with him is safe sex. Sex addicts frequently engage in risky sex, which may include unprotected sex. This can be a difficult thing for a woman to ask of her partner, primarily because it requires confronting his infidelity, but a woman’s health can depend on it. It is also important for a woman whose partner is a sex addict to seek counseling for herself as well as her partner. Being in a relationship with a sex addict can have a real effect on a woman’s self esteem, and her feelings of desirability, power and trust.
For a coworker of a sex addict, the situation is quite different, as it is often one of sexual harassment. Sex addiction or straight up sexism, it does not really matter what his reasons are. What matters are his actions. If a woman experiences unwanted touching or other physical contact, unwanted sexual jokes or comments, sexual advances, or exposure to pornography from a coworker the first step is to say no clearly. If the behavior continues she should document all of her work, and document all of her interactions with the harasser. This can include sending him a memo that asks him to stop his behavior and making a copy for her own file. If there is no one within the organization to speak with there a number of organizations a woman can contact for legal and emotional support.
Treatment
Of course, we all have emotional and social reasons for having sex as well as the physical pleasure it might bring us. Sexual addicts are distinguished by their compulsion to have sex under even the most risky and abusive situations. For many people sexual addiction has its roots in a family history of sexual abuse and addiction. Its treatment requires some form of counseling. Therapy options are numerous, including twelve step programs, psychotherapy and support groups. It is recommended that the partners of addicts also seek counseling either independently or with the addict. The treatment of sexual addiction aims not so much to bring all sex to an end but rather to place sex into the context of healthy relationships and to encourage sex that is mutual and not compulsive.
